Lohbado's grandmother Aida Stumps told Peter Stumps to not shy away from pain or darkness. If you try to ignore the demons, they become louder and more insistent. Pain won't go away. Challenges never cease to emerge. Instead of reacting in fury, depression, self pity or resentment, one could view suffering as a catalyst. It could provide momentum to crack through the shell of self-centred obsessions, unexamined beliefs and opinions. One could go beyond the dull dreary habitual way of doing things and open up to something a bit more inspiring, or at least interesting, dignified, friendly, playful, imaginative, however you like.